The Morning Debrief™ connects men through informal support sessions focused on neurodiversity. Starting in Tunbridge Wells and now expanding nationwide, it provides a vital network for dialogue and support, including Evening Hangouts to ensure accessibility. This initiative offers more than just advice; it fosters a deep, shared understanding of neurodiversity challenges, promoting strategies for inclusive engagement.
NeuroJava provides unparalleled insight into the neurodiverse experience, offering a foundation of lived understanding, not just theoretical advice. We've navigated the complexities of diagnosis, educational challenges, and sensory sensitivities. This translates to more than just data; it's a deep understanding of neurodiversity, enabling you to build truly inclusive strategies.
Please contact us for all your neurodiversity consultancy needs to arrange a meeting
NeuroJava™ & THE MORNING DEBRIEF™ were born from real-life challenges, shared conversations, and a desire to provide genuine support for neurodivergent dads and their children. What began as morning coffee chats to unpack our daily struggles evolved into a mission to create a community where neurodivergent families can connect, share, and thrive.
HOW IT ALL BEGUN
In March 2019, Nick Clark and I met for the first time. At the time, Nick, a Panini veteran, was working on their newly signed Premier League Collectables and had come to host a Dadsnet meetup for our local West Kent group. We connected almost immediately—it's funny how neurodivergent people seem to find each other instinctively. Over the following year, we exchanged greetings in passing and occasional messages on social media, checking in from time-to-time.
By July of that year, I was going through a separation with my wife, largely due to impulsive behaviour and poor social skills. Then, one day, a member of family sat me down for a conversation. He bluntly handed me a list of autistic behaviours and suggested I might be autistic. Reading through it, I couldn't disagree. A referral through my GP and the Right to Choose system led to my diagnosis—I was, indeed, autistic. It was a strange moment, being told that my processing, social, and sensory skills were affected, but it brought a sense of relief. Suddenly, everything clicked into place. There was an explanation for why I had always felt and acted the way I did...
FAMILY DISCOVERIES
During the pandemic while attempting to homeschool my youngest child, I began noticing troubling patterns in his behaviour. Typically a loving, calm child, he now seemed to default to anger. His emotional meltdowns became increasingly intense, marking the beginning of our family's journey into understanding neurodiversity. After navigating the lengthy NHS referral process, we received a diagnosis for my son—he was autistic too.
When schools reopened after the Covid lockdown, my son struggled with extreme school avoidance due to overwhelming sensory overload. Getting him to school each day became a monumental challenge. The anxiety and stress of those mornings were palpable. Though we received incredible support from his school, there were days when it felt impossible to carry on.
A LIFELINE OF SUPPORT
Around the same time, Nick was facing his own set of challenges. He had been diagnosed with Relapsing Remitting Multiple Sclerosis (RRMS) at the start of the first Covid-19 lockdown. Then, in late September 2022, his family suffered a difficult close family bereavement; his middle son began unmasking his own neurodiversity, and Nick's MS began flaring up, pushing him towards a significant relapse as he trained for his second London Marathon raising funds for the MS Trust.
Our boys, who were in the same class and close friends, would often walk to school together, sometimes holding hands for comfort. Yet, even with this bond, there were days when school was simply too much. After one particularly hard morning, we grabbed coffee instead of going home to work. That coffee turned into therapy for us—our space to unpack the daily pressures of parenting neurodivergent children, without fear of judgement.
OUR EVENTS CALENDAR
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April 2025
